Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Speed Dating or Courtship?

Have you heard of "speed dating"? According to Mr. Wikipedia (whoever he is!), "speed dating" originated with "...Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish Ha Torah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry." Supposedly it's been around since 1998, and made a huge splash when it was featured on "Sex and the City."

If you're not up to speed on this latest dating fad, don't feel bad. I've only recently heard about it, but I assumed it was for promiscuous work-aholics who didn't have time to develop real relationships or have anything other than a power lunch.

So, imagine my surprise when I heard my daughter's Newman Guide school's Catholic Campus Ministry was sponsoring a speed dating event.

I sure hope nobody takes it seriously, because for the life of me I can't figure out how chaste Christian courtship has anything to do with speed dating.

I think back on my very first date with the man who has been my husband for the past 22+ years. We sat at our table in an Italian restaurant (in Italy!) lost in conversation, staring into each other's eyes. We were barely aware of our surroundings, or that our waiter kept returning to fill our water glasses and ask us if we wanted anything else. The other tables had been stripped of tablecloths, silverware and glasses and the staff must've been eager to get home that night, but they let us sit there, lost in each other's gaze. It wasn't until we finally got up to go home that I realized the place was empty except for us, the waiter and the cook. They smiled knowingly at each other as we left the restaurant that night.

Keep your speed dating, I'll take mine nice and slow.


Mary G said...

I'm with you ... courtship wins every time and it doesn't have to be years of courting ... "speed dating" just sounds like an accident waiting to happen!

Anna Scott Graham said...

There's always something for those too busy to let life just happen. I'm all for a slower track of living when applicable. :)))

karouni said...

Speed dating! Jeez.
I met my fiance on the internet, so a little progressive for some, but I don't know how well you could ever find a good future spouse in a two minute introduction. Sounds like a disaster in the making.
There are so many layers to a person; how do you peel them all back in seconds?
I'm in total agreement regarding speed dating...not a great invention!