Thursday, September 06, 2007

Life with Ten Kids: Am I Crazy, or What?




Why would anyone have ten kids in today's world? Prices are skyrocketing, cities are crowded and raising kids is fraught with peril. People are astonished when I tell them I have ten kids. I often hear, "You must be crazy," or, "You must be rich," or, "You must be a saint." I thoroughly acknowledge my lack of sanity. I sometimes feel rich, (in love, that is). I rarely, if ever, feel like a saint.

You have to be a bit crazy to have a family numbering in the double digits, requiring a minimum of two hotel rooms when traveling, and always needing additional pages when filling out forms that list household members.

When maneuvering my 15-passenger van through the McDonald's drive-through one day, the woman handing me my happy meals commented, "That's a big van."

I replied, "Mini-vans are for wimps."

I didn't intend to offend. It was supposed to be funny, but she retorted, "I drive a mini-van."

Oops.

As for feeling rich, every time I pay the mortgage bill, I tell my husband, "We get to live in the house for another month!" He doesn't appreciate hearing that, but I feel a sense of accomplishment each month when I mail the check.

When I was a little girl, I used to love visiting Grandmother in Paducah, Kentucky. She was rich. She had silver candlestick holders. She would laugh at me when I told my friends she was rich. When I grew up and saw with adult eyes the tiny house she and Grandfather lived in their entire married life, I understood why she laughed. But she was still rich in my mind.

Christmas morning at our house means Mass, followed by breakfast and opening presents. The younger kids get tremendous joy from wrapping their old toys and recycling them as gifts to other family members. The older kids get somewhat annoyed at this, ("Hey, I gave you that last year!"), but, they're pretty good sports for the most part.

Birthdays at our house mean twelve voices singing, "Happy Birthday to You," at fever-pitch until the dishes in the china cabinet rattle. If we were smarter, we'd have spread out the birthdays so we had one a month, but our anniversary is in March, and we now have five birthdays in December. December is one big party at our house.

After our eighth child was born, we took a job in England. There is nothing like being an American in another country to make you feel rich. We began to think seriously about adding to our family through adoption. I felt like the richest woman in town when my husband said he was willing to adopt one, then two more children.

When people tell me, "You must be rich," I smile and nod, with a wink at the kids. I feel rich.

As for being a saint-certainly not. I know more than anyone (except, perhaps my kids), how little patience I have, how many mistakes I make, and how often I fail at being a good parent. The great thing about having ten kids is they're teaching me patience and they're teaching me how to be a good parent because they give me so many opportunities to practice.

And one of the best perks of having so many kids is that if one, two, or even three of them are mad at me at any given moment, I still have at least a 70% approval rating. Maybe I am a saint after all.

4 comments:

Jules said...

Hey Debbie, Just wanted to say I'm loving your blog. You're a funny, insightful woman. Annapolis!! WOW!! Provided you with great trainging to help manage your family I bet! :-)I only have 3 babes earthside - 3 others in Heaven. I'd have lots more on if only my husband would stop looking at my NFP Chart! (LOL) I've only read your first few so far but I am looking forward to quickly catching up to your more current entries. Sincerely, Your Catholic Christian Sister, Jules

karouni said...

I just came across your blog when looking up Catholic homeschooling. I am a 22 year old who's contemplating marriage with my boyfriend, both of us being conservative Catholics who want a homeschool situation for future children (and we hope to be blessed with many children). It's so nice to read your blog. I think my mother thinks I'm crazy to desire a stay-at-home-mom-and-teacher situation and to desire lots of children, but I just love the idea.
Also, my boyfriend and I, after marriage, would quite possibly move to the Denver area, so it's great to see a seemingly like-minded woman in the area I hope to move to!

Debbie said...

Hi Karouni,

Let me know if you move to the Denver area. There are lots of like-minded Catholic homeschooling stay-at-home moms here!

Debbie

karen g said...

I was just thinking about this blog today and luckily still found it under my "favorites" in my web browser (phew!).

Since I last commented, my boyfriend and I got engaged (so I guess I should say fiance! :-] )
We are very excited, but a little drained from wedding planning already, especially since there has been conflict with my mother regarding which parish to get married in (he was baptized in the latin rite, i was baptized in the Chaldean rite, and though I've only ever practiced latin-rite, my mom wants me to get married in the chaldean rite). Our wedding is tentatively set for Aug 20, 2010.
The fiance (Jason) graduated from law school and started a temporary job (one year gig) and is searching for a job to have next September. Please pray for us, as his prospects are quite slim because of the very high amounts of law firms laying off or mandating hiring freezes.

Hope all is well with your family and I will definitely let you know if we find something in Denver! :-)
Karen