tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34250628.post4972898452462927028..comments2023-03-29T21:54:30.710-06:00Comments on Livin' La Vida Grande: How to keep your son from being a mama's boyMilitantMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03016804353250316208noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34250628.post-39380420694474729682009-05-02T17:38:00.000-06:002009-05-02T17:38:00.000-06:00Dear Anonymous,
The only mention made of "athleti...Dear Anonymous,<br /><br />The only mention made of "athletics" was in the suggestion to unplug boys from video games and get them involved in athletic competitions. The thinking is that boys are drawn to video games because of the desire to control and have power over something and for the adrenaline rush. These things can be found in athletic competitions, particularly in team contact sports. It doesn't mean all boys have to excel at sports to be considered "manly," but it certainly does mean getting out and doing something "real" like sports, is a whole lot more meaningful and healthy than sitting in front of a computer screen. If you have done a lot of DIY and worked in oil fields, then it sounds like you're doing "real" stuff too. Most 12-17 year-old males aren't going to have the opportunity to work in an oil field, but they probably have a chance to play sports.<br /><br />As for ED meds, the author was merely saying there has been a marked increase in the number of men seeking these meds and he was drawing a link to pornography. ED can have a psychological element as well and viewing pornography releases neuro-chemicals into the brain which permanently changes the brain. Eventually the porn viewer has to view more extreme images in order to register the same pleasure. It only makes sense that one of the results of porn viewing could be ED. If the porn problem is as huge as some Christians report (see my book review of The ABCs of Choosing a Good Husband) then most men have a problem with it and are they are probably in denial. As you said, "A man doesn't allow anyone to dictate to him what it means to be a man", and I would add, "A man doesn't allow himself to be sucked in by pornography."MilitantMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03016804353250316208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34250628.post-55526074282379038662009-05-01T23:13:00.000-06:002009-05-01T23:13:00.000-06:00My family never has place a great deal of importan...My family never has place a great deal of importance in/on athletics. I wonder if it would be "sissy" of the men in my family to give any one who would suggest we aren't "manly" because we aren't interested in athletic event, a head start down the road before they make such a stupid suggestion? In that it takes 2 to tango, it's not entirely a man's fault, he is slow in or never finds that woman he feels confident he can fulfill an important commitment to. ED meds treat a physiological problem, not a psychological problem, so porn doesn't lead to a need for ED medication, but that's not to say porn doesn't lead to unrealistic expectations in both men and women. Growing up in a DIY world, and working in the oil fields, I'm no stranger to "manly", but I resist keeping up with the Jones, and being sucked up by the unsustainable economy based on ever increasing consumption, beyond the necessity for survival. This review doesn't entice me to read the book reviewed. A "man" doesn't allow anyone dictate to him what it means to be a man, and feel sorry for any male that isn't taught that first, looking at anyone who wouldn't tech that to a young man in the beginning with suspicion. BTW was lead to this blog entry by the New Advent newsletter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34250628.post-87628253228753075642009-05-01T07:46:00.000-06:002009-05-01T07:46:00.000-06:00Debbie,
I have enjoyed all your book reviews. Thi...Debbie, <br />I have enjoyed all your book reviews. This one strikes me as a must read. I have been worrying about the raising of boys in the city for a while and the necessary restrictions that city life imposes on young boys and whether it will turn them in to sissies! Anyway this sounds helpful.<br />Thanks.Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06929906559441348957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34250628.post-90666029719341947962009-04-30T19:53:00.000-06:002009-04-30T19:53:00.000-06:00What a beautiful family you have! Thank you for th...What a beautiful family you have! Thank you for this review.Charlotte (WaltzingM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12690056082240865041noreply@blogger.com